28th July, 2017
I felt I had to write about Happiness as there just seems to be doom and gloom in the news and not enough happiness.
Here are some ideas on how to be a happier you, sorry its a long one but I feel this will reach all of my clients in some way.
Instead of multitasking and being focused on the past and future and on the present negativity all around, those of us who are most satisfied with our lives stop to enjoy the beauty and the small, amazing things in life.
Meditation is one of the most effective ways to embark on a path of stillness and mindfulness, which, in turn, gives your mind a much needed break from all those worries and anxieties occupying it. Just start on a couple of minutes each day.
Forgiving and forgetting is absolutely necessary when it comes to happiness. The reason? Holding a grudge means that you're hanging on to anger, resentment, pain and other negative emotions that are roadblocks to happiness. By letting go of these emotions, you free yourself from negativity so there's more space for positive emotions to get in.
Giving money to others actually does make people happier, by giving to another person, you're creating a connection and a conversation with that person, and those things are really good for happiness.
I've taught myself that true friendships require investment. This doesn't always mean money, but it does require a lot of your time. Truly happy people spend time (and money) on their relationships.
Feeling "rushed" can lead to stress and unhappiness. At the same time, people struggle with finding that happy medium of being just busy enough. A healthy work-life balance is key.
Happiness is Contagious. This means that when you surround yourself with other people who are happy and supportive, you'll be able to build self-confidence, boost your creativity and just have more fun in general. On the other end of the spectrum, being with negative people means you're just another member of their pity party and that's exhausting and not much fun.
People who are happy focus their energy and efforts only on things that are truly important and within their control. Remember, getting consumed by the things that you have absolutely no control over is a waste of time that will end up making you lean more toward the miserable side. In other words, master the art of letting it go.
It's no secret that that having both a rich social life and healthy relationships is an important component to happiness. But, happy people nurture and improve their relationships through "active and constructive" responding, which includes celebrating the success of those around them.
Kindness, like happiness, is contagious. There's even a name for it: "moral elevation." witnessing acts of kindness makes us feel warm and fuzzy inside.
Let's be honest: Bad things happen to all of us even the happiest and most upbeat people on the planet. They remain optimistic by focusing on solutions to the problem and reflecting on what they're grateful for.
Most relationships (especially marriages) decline over time. But, happy people actually work on maintaining these relationships by checking in on loved ones, being active and constructive listeners.
Getting quality sleep is absolutely necessary. If you need a refresher, sleep deprivation can negatively impact your health, productivity and ability to cope with stressful situations.
Nature has a calming effect and reminds us to slow down, take deep breaths and soak up the present. Take the time stroll through a park, visit the beach or hike a trail.
Happy people have changed their internal dialogue so that when there's a problem, they view it as a challenge and new opportunity to enhance their lives. In fact, you should just go ahead and eliminate the word "problem" from your mind altogether.
Those studied who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude improved their mood and energy, and experienced substantially less anxiety. This is most likely due to lower cortisol levels. So express gratitude every morning, writing in a journal about what you're thankful for, and occasionally saying "thank you" to your loved ones and colleagues.
The happiest individuals dream big and work hard to turn those dreams into achievable goals. They're committed and disciplined, and they know their priorities: They allow themselves to say "no," take care of their health, break out of their comfort zones and accept the fact that they may have to start over.
While relationships are important to one's happiness, we all need some alone time in order to catch up with, well, ourselves. Spending time alone gives you the chance to unpack your worries and anxieties, reflect on what you're grateful for and get back on track with your desires.
It's incredibly easy to blame someone for your failures. The problem is that this doesn't allow you to let go and move past those failures. Happy people take responsibility for their mistakes and use that failure as an opportunity to change their lives for the better.
When it comes to personality, individuals fall into one of two camps: those with a fixed mindset or those with a growth mindset. People with a fixed mindset believe you are who you are, and there's nothing you can do about it. That's a problem because it prevents them from growing or changing.
People with a growth mindset, however, believe that with a little effort, they can improve, which in turn makes them happy because they're better suited to cope with and overcome challenges.
Since the body and mind are connected, it makes sense that you if aren't taking care of yourself physically, you're going to suffer mentally and emotionally. Start by getting quality sleep every night, eating a well-balanced diet, exercising regularly and finding healthy ways to decompress and alleviate stress.
If you want to be happier and honestly, who doesn't? start by mirroring the habits listed above. To make this an enjoyable experience, start by mastering one habit at a time, then quickly move on to the next. You'll be surprised how amazing you'll feel!
I hope this resonates with you and if you have any questions free to email me.