Very many of my clients come to me to make a connections with passed over loved ones so I thought I would write a piece about Loss as in turn it happens to us all, I see it as going home. Hopefully you will take some comfort from it or give you another outlook in regards to death and grief.
If you have experienced the loss of a loved one, you know how devastating it is. Though I am certain about life on The Other Side, I have been decimated by grief too, not for those who’ve gone home but for me, separated from them by different dimensions, temporary as that separation is.
Riding the dark horse of grief is excruciating, hollow, numbing, enraging, and a deeply private process. It takes as long as it takes, no more, no less. Ending grief before it’s been fully expressed and experienced can be dangerous to your own health. I tried it once when my Father died, got busy with supporting everyone else, arranging the funeral etc. I stored the pain deep inside and it wasn’t until I went back to work a few weeks later I just collapsed on the floor in the middle of the office consumed with grief and I was very ill. Like every other powerful emotion, the energy of grief has to go somewhere. You need to work through it completely and release it from your body. So be patient with grieving, in yourself and those around you.
It’s true that there’s comfort in knowing that our loved ones live on in our memories and in our hearts. But I find even more comfort in the fact that we actually take on qualities we admire most in everyone who touches our lives. I am enhanced every day by father’s inner strength, humour, generosity and his ease to be with. When we look at ourselves as mosaics, combining our own brilliant colours with those we miss to make an evolving whole, we realise that we never really “Lose” anyone at all.
The truth remains, though, that we can’t prevent the losses we’ll have to confront during our lives. Yet there are a few wonderful things we can do to keep ourselves prepared for loss that will help make us strong enough to get through in intact.
One is to keep our relationships with our loved ones current and avoid unfinished business as possible. Don’t do it for your loved ones, do it for yourself.
The second thing we can do is to keep our relationship with our spirituality that keeps us alive, active and readily available. The more in touch we are with our spirit lives, the more easily we will remember the truth each of us knows in the depth of our souls, that even the cruellest, most devastating loss is only temporary. As endless as it seems while we’re trying to recover from it, it’s the blink of any eye in eternity, and only moments from the unimaginable joy of the reunions we have to look forward to when we’re all home together on the other side again.
I hope that has given you an insight and will help you with loss and grief now or in the future.
If you have any questions or comments please feel free to contact me.