Very many of my clients come to me to make a connections with passed over loved ones so I thought I would write a piece about Loss as in turn it happens to us all, I see it as going home. Hopefully you will take some comfort from it or give you another outlook in regards to death and grief.
If you have experienced the loss of a loved one, you know how devastating it is. Though I am certain about life on The Other Side, I have been decimated by grief too, not for those who’ve gone home but for me, separated from them by different dimensions, temporary as that separation is.
Riding the dark horse of grief is excruciating, hollow, numbing, enraging, and a deeply private process. It takes as long as it takes, no more, no less. Ending grief before it’s been fully expressed and experienced can be dangerous to your own health. I tried it once when my Father died, got busy with supporting everyone else, arranging the funeral etc. I stored the pain deep inside and it wasn’t until I went back to work a few weeks later I just collapsed on the floor in the middle of the office consumed with grief and I was very ill. Like every other powerful emotion, the energy of grief has to go somewhere. You need to work through it completely and release it from your body. So be patient with grieving, in yourself and those around you.
It’s true that there’s comfort in knowing that our loved ones live on in our memories and in our hearts. But I find even more comfort in the fact that we actually take on qualities we admire most in everyone who touches our lives. I am enhanced every day by father’s inner strength, humour, generosity and his ease to be with. When we look at ourselves as mosaics, combining our own brilliant colours with those we miss to make an evolving whole, we realise that we never really “Lose” anyone at all.
The truth remains, though, that we can’t prevent the losses we’ll have to confront during our lives. Yet there are a few wonderful things we can do to keep ourselves prepared for loss that will help make us strong enough to get through in intact.
One is to keep our relationships with our loved ones current and avoid unfinished business as possible. Don’t do it for your loved ones, do it for yourself.
The second thing we can do is to keep our relationship with our spirituality that keeps us alive, active and readily available. The more in touch we are with our spirit lives, the more easily we will remember the truth each of us knows in the depth of our souls, that even the cruellest, most devastating loss is only temporary. As endless as it seems while we’re trying to recover from it, it’s the blink of any eye in eternity, and only moments from the unimaginable joy of the reunions we have to look forward to when we’re all home together on the other side again.
I hope that has given you an insight and will help you with loss and grief now or in the future.
If you have any questions or comments please feel free to contact me.
Happy New Year! What Does 2016 have install for you.....
I hope you had a fantastic Christmas and New Years Eve. Did you make any new year’s resolutions or promises to yourself? The new year brings new opportunities for those who seek them. We can make resolutions but if we don’t actually put any effort in to ensure they happen everything will remain the same. I always say to my clients, friends, colleagues “Do What Makes You Happy” as we don’t know how much time we have in this world. I have recently just lost a dear friend who I have known for 28 years even though he was ill we didn’t expect him to pass so quickly but you know what he never complained about his pain and he enjoyed life even though he had been through some really tough times. He touched so many lives and will always be remembered for his laugh and smile and the ability to see the funny side of everything even after the emotional pain he had been through.
So remember if you don’t do anything to make your life better and happier everything will remain the same, it has to come from you and your soul and nobody can do it for you.
I believe in Karma and what you put out there you get back so try every day to be happy with who you are and what you achieve even if sometimes things seem unfair there will be a reason you are experiencing it. It's life lessons and the reason we are on this earth plain in the first place.
If you wish to have some guidance on how to get where you’re going in life or would like to connect with a past love one please message me for a reading. If you are in pain or your mind is in a muddle then give Reiki a try as it can help in some many ways.
Happy New Year and all the best for 2016